Some people have a picture of God standing around Heaven watching us with lightning bolts, ready to strike at us any time we make a mistake. They think of God as a police officer just waiting in that speed trap ready to pull us over and give us a ticket. They think of God as the “Enforcer” – standing by to judge us at any minute.
This view represents a sad misconception.
Elsewhere in John’s first letter, he tells us that God IS love. And in that love, there is no room for fear. If we truly have accepted Jesus as our Savior, then our fear of destruction and eternal punishment should be a thing of the past. Jesus’ death, burial, and resurrection offers us a chance to be a part of God’s family for all eternity – there’s no need for us to fear that God will suddenly disown us.
John says that if we do fear abandonment from God, then we have not fully allowed his Spirit to fill us with his love – we’ve never fully experienced his love. That doesn’t mean we are not saved; it simply means that we haven’t let that fact sink into the very fiber of our being.
As a parent, I know that there are times when I have to give my children consequences. But the consequences that I give are not designed to be punitive punishments just to make my kids feel bad. Instead, the goal is restoration. When children are disobedient there is a rift in relationship. That relationship must be repaired, and restitution of some sort is required. I don’t enjoy giving consequences to my children – but I know that learning responsibility and consequences is an essential part of their character development.
If we as humans understand this concept, why don’t we understand that God feels the same way about us?
God doesn’t delight in allowing consequences to happen to his children. He’s not secretly happy when we make a mistake and have to deal with the fallout. I imagine he’s discouraged in a way, that we haven’t learned how better to live our lives. But that discouragement or disappointment doesn’t equate to a lack of love. He loves us unconditionally and will never leave us or forsake us. Knowing and experiencing that love will drive out all fear because where there is true love, there is no room for fear.